"Ericka Hart: When I was diagnosed in May 2014, I started noticing peoples' responses to me were very, like, "Oh, Ericka, I'm so sorry," "Wow, this is so awful," "I'm really sorry to hear that." Just lots of sympathy and concern for my well being. I didn't think anything of that, but I always felt worse coming away from those conversations--Feeling like, okay, this is something that's happening to me and you just gave me some sympathy, but it feels like there's something wrong with me or if I didn't have cancer then I would be better, like that would have been a better existence.
I started having thoughts about my body and that my body had failed me, kind of like a "woe is me." or "why is this happening to me?" Then I started doing work and a little bit of studying about chronic illness and disability and started thinking. This is a very ableist way of looking at chronic illness."
"Lead researcher Dr. Benjamin Breyer of the University of California, San Francisco’s department urology notes in his study that because pubic grooming appears to be some kind of proxy for sexual activity in general, doctors who see that their patients groom should ask their patients about their safe sex practices during a checkup. And if future research shows a causal relationship between tiny tears in skin caused by grooming and the diagnosis of STIs, new guidelines could be created that advise people who shave and wax to take a few days off from sex after hair removal to let their skin recover."